It’s Good Friday I woke to the sun, which was a great reason for it to be a good Friday (after the dullest coldest March in 50 years). As I was about let my enthusiastic fingers rip over the keyboard for my blog (my first this year), the thought “so why is it called Good Friday?” pulled me up in my tracks. I have a choice Google it or ignore it. I Googled; it turns out the reason is unclear so I am choosing to run with what the Baltimore Catechism says. ‘It is called Good Friday because Christ by his death showed His great love for mankind’. Good in this sense means Holy.
Google can be a blessing or a curse, blessing in that you can find someone’s opinion to anything or curse it distracts you as you head off down some other adventure. Now it could, of course, turn out a blessing depending on how you view it. Which, funnily enough, brings me back, to what I wanted to talk about in the first place, ‘how we view things’ and how that leads to Empathy.
While enjoying the sun and a cuppa tea or ‘cha’ as we say in Ireland I read an article by Lauren Hadden in the Psychologies Magazine ‘Free your mind’ and it got me thinking about empathy. Empathy is our ability to let go of our story of how the world ‘should’ look. I completely agreed with Lauren that we have created our own story of the world based on our beliefs and that we are indeed attached to these beliefs. We consistently seek out pieces of information which agree with our story. You know our automatic way of being, ‘our need to be right’.
The insight for me was the reason we are attached to our story, it gives us a feeling of certainty. Neurological research suggests that at any given moment our brain is bombarded with millions of bits of information, so it needs to be filtered in order for us not to be completely confused, overwhelmed with all the options available. The way the brain does this is through story like any story it is just a glance of a bigger picture. Here was the gem for me, our brain’s need to hold on to this model (story) of the world, leads to our resistance to change and our reluctance to empathise with someone else’s story.
Now that is a great thought for Good Friday.
Happy Easter everyone.
If you are ready to make changes to your story in order to create a new story give me a call Doreen on 01628 675400