As luck would have it I had just been talking about the importance of sleep when into my inbox dropped. ‘Hi Doreen, Might be of interest to you. Posted today: Sleep expert needed. I’m writing a feature for The Huffington Post UK on ‘How To Transform Your Sleep’. Sarah O’Meara.
I have no idea yet how much if any of my contribution will make it to Sarah’s article. So I decided I shall share my thoughts with you my regular readers.
What are the worst things you do in bed and why?
When I read this, I had a little rush of horror and shame attack about how badly I used to treat myself. As I ran my mental film, it began to look more like sadistic torture. If I had inflicted this on someone else an arrest warrant would be served. Hang on now to your imaginations; remember we are talking about sleep problems here. Before I even got to bed these are some of the ways I used to destroy the possibility of a good night sleep.
Watch a crime drama followed be the late news. Why? ‘I had no idea it is just what I did. I never gave it a thought’.
Have a few glasses of wine and some nibbles. Why? ‘I had no idea it is just what I did. I never gave it a thought’.
Check my e-mails. Why? ‘I will feel good I cared about other’s problems. In hindsight, ‘I had no idea it is just what I did. I never gave it a thought’.
It had all become a habit. Is any of this sounding familiar?
What happened in bed?I would wake in the middle of the night. My heart racing my head spinning off yet another action I had forgotten to do. Fumbling in the dark my pen found the paper and jotted some scribble down. That helped to get it off my mind.Followed by the nightmares of how the situation got completely out of control.
Something had to change. I became conscious of what I was doing and the effect it was having on my life. and removed myself from that environment. A combination of hypnosis, drinking more water and watching more nature programs helped. What happens in bed now? My number one tool …I write down three things I am grateful for today. I rotate them in my mind as I drift off to sleep. Now my subconscious has only positive things to ponder for the night.
Sometimes when thoughts go off on a rampage, as they stop in front of my eyes, I acknowledge them and choose one.
Check if it is from the past or future.
Then bid it goodnight as it floats away.
They slow down as they float away.
I don’t know what happens to the rest of them as I’ve fallen off to sleep.
When I notice tension in my body, I slowly visualize each part of my body totally relaxing. Before I get to my toes I’m asleep.Most of what I used to do was unconscious bad habits. Changes took place as I became conscious of what I was doing and the impact of them on my life. Some are small changes yet make a huge difference. Now I am calm (most of the time) my energy high (most of the time) and I am much more patient (most of the time).
I am not torturing myself (most of the time) and that feel good. It is easier to sleep well when you feel good about yourself. Learning to love yourself and be kind to yourself is the key to transforming sleep. That’s big stuff.
Please feel free to share in the comment box below the worst things you do in bed and the impact on your sleep.
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